| Suddenly Single - becoming suddenly single
can occur for a variety of reasons.
Male or female, at any age, the breakdown of your relationship or bereavement
can be overwhelming. Many people feel lost isolated, devastated or worse.
It can feel like you’ve lost control of your world, you may even
be questioning who you are now. Shock, anger hurt or even rage.
Surprisingly , this can happen even if it was your decision and you
instigated the situation. You may be asking - why me? why now? and where
do I go from here? Life has changed and it can look as though things
will never be normal again (whatever normal means).
There can be a multitude of issues to be considered and decisions to
be made and they can all appear crucial and urgent. Your home, your
family, your financial security - all things which you may have taken
for granted may need to be addressed and all of this at a time when
you are dealing with emotional impact.
What we offer is a number of tailored options to support you through
the process depending on your personal needs. A confidential safe place
to explore your options and look at your situation now and going forward.
Practical and emotional advice and assistance as your situation evolves
and moves forward. Someone to listen and advise - space and time solely
for you.
We will help you explore your issues, which may include the following:
- Why are you suddenly single and what concerns you?
- What specifically do you want?
- What needs to change and what do you need to do for that to happen?
- What happens then?
This may consist of a weekly tele-class or personal one-to-one phone
session. We can also come to you if that is preferable. We offer a free
confidential initial telephone consultation to discuss your specific
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Stay Calm
Now is the time to avoid panic you may not be able to change or influence
what is happening but we can provide strategies to assist your reaction.
You may be suddenly single due to a bereavement or relationship breakdown.
You may experience feelings of anger, loneliness, isolation or fear.
You may have children or other dependants to care for.
Unsure where to turn?
Take a breath and let us support you. |
Stay Flexible
Events can be unfamiliar or confusing when we are emotionally upset
and it is easy to hold on to the past. Feeling completely out of your
comfort zone.
The more flexible and open you are then the greater your options become.
Stay open: gather information before you make decisions. This will
help you as you move forward. You have a lot of information coming at
you at one time or you may be receiving no information.
We can help you take that step back, consider the options and look
at the alternatives.
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Stay Informed
This really is key. Avoid avoidance. Don’t bury your head in
the sand – you need to know where you stand both financially and
practically.
Housing, children short term finances. Know where you stand. Just as
we all have our own personal values and morals, we also have individual
personal money values which you may or may not be consciously aware
of.
It is helpful to know your specific personal and money values. Identify
any emotional money “baggage” ,which can be dealt with.
We will guide and support you through the process. |
Take Advice
You may require legal, pastoral, emotional, housing or financial counsel.
Consider your needs and take reliable, professional advice. Sometimes
a cup of tea and a chat with a friend or family member is enough.Some
people prefer to keep friendships and families separately from, painful
or personal matters.
We can help you with emotional support and financial guidance. We
review your general situation and help you decide your requirements
and obtain the additional assistance you need.
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Be Kind To Yourself
Now is the time to take it easy on yourself. You are experiencing a
process and you may well be dealing with issues and areas which are
unfamiliar and stressful.
Take some time for yourself. In the same way in that we are going back
to basics for your money we are going back to basics for you.
Get adequate sleep, create a routine for yourself. Eat regularly and
well. Go for a wee walk. Whatever “kind to yourself” means
to you – do it. |
Build Your Blueprint
We know where you are and what you need: stay calm, stay flexible,
stay informed, take advice, be kind to yourself, build your blueprint
we have information support and clarity.
We have a new routine. So with all of these factors being present we
will help you create your plan.
Take charge: decide what you want and make your roadmap
to your now future. |
“Just Do It”
As the famous ad campaign says. You now know your money values, you’ve
eliminated your fears, created new life goals and you’re now ready
to create your future.
You now have a plan. You can check it, adjust it but most importantly,
use it to live the life you’ve created now! |
Does this sound like you?
You might be wondering – how will I manage? Or even what will
happen to me now? You might find yourself feeling apprehensive or afraid.
Asking yourself; how will I cope? What will I do? How can I get through
this? Where will I live – can I afford to stay in my home?
Other concerns can include what about my children, or my family? Or
our dog?
Feeling – I don’t know what to do now – can I cope
with this?
Some people may think why did this happen to me? Or – why am
I so angry?
Why me, why now? Why not someone else?
Is there a pattern here in my life? – if so what caused it? How
can I stop any negativity or self sabotage?
I don’t know how to manage my bank account or pay my bills. I’m
scared and afraid about things- how do I move forward?
You may find yourself asking none of these, some of these, or even
all of these questions – you may have additional concerns not
yet listed here. However, one thing you should be aware of: however
you feel, that’s ok. It’s a normal part of the process.
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